My work with couples is securely rooted in Attachment theory.  This is a well researched understanding of the emotional building blocks of the secure personality and the secure relationships. In particular, the therapeutic approach of Emotionally Focused Therapy as developed and taught by Sue Johnson, has proven to be a highly effective tool for helping couples. EFT helps couples understand how they get caught in negative cycles, unravel those negative patterns, and find their way into a conversation that cultivates connection, attachment, and love. Couples are guided step by step through a process that deescalates the places of hurt and anger, uncovers the deeper layers of emotions that lie under the familiar defensiveness, and weave together a relational experience of softening and emotionally intimate engagement.